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How Leaders Get Listening Wrong

In this 3 minute video posted on LinkedIn, Social Psychologist and bestselling author Amy Cuddy explains how Leaders get listening wrong.

If you're a leader in any area of your life then this video is for you.

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COVID-19 How to cope with the change

Stuck at Home & Struggling to cope?

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Is there anything you can do to change the situation? No there isn't.

But you can control how you think about it and to reduce the impact it has on your life. This video shows you how to do that.

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Congruence in Communication

Your Weekly Listening Challenge

Congruence in Communication

Have you have ever met someone for the first time and felt uneasy?

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Hi, I'm Alan Cox from Brainy Gecko.

My question for you this week is about the gut feelings you get when something doesn't feel right.

Bad vibes?​​
Have you ever taken an instant dislike to someone or had the feeling that something just wasn't right but  you weren't sure why?
When your alert unconscious mind detects a lack of congruence between the words, tone of voice, and body language then an internal alarm is triggered. When your unconscious mind detects a  mismatch, your brain generates feelings of unease inside you.
You find yourself wondering, 'I don't know why, but I just don't like him or her.' Trust your gut and listen to your feelings because they are your unconscious speaking to you.

Good vibes?
When the words, tone and body language match your brain relaxes, and you experience a sense of comfort, of ease. You don't know why, but you get good vibes from them.

Of course, when you experience positive or negative vibes from another person, you must check them out because they they could be wrong.

You challenge for the week is to tune into your unconscious mind and listen to your gut feelings when meeting someone for the first time.

Remember, Listening is Responding to the Other Person's message.

Have fun, and I'll see you next week.

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