What is Deep Listening
And Why Is It Critical?
When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen. Earnest Hemingway.
But how come? Most of us want to listen. In fact most of us think we are above average listeners. So what goes wrong and is there a solution?
How to listen deeply
Yes, there is a solution and it started back in 1957, made a huge leap forward in 1994 and recently, neuroscience has confirmed and added to our knowledge.
Deep Listening is Active Listening on steroids.
OK, what is Deep Listening, and why is it essential for all personal and professional relationships?
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"…Active Listening became mainstream but has now paved the way for a more radical and powerful way of listening – called "Deep Listening" Ipek Serifsoy, PhD
Interpersonal Communication is complex because Words alone are inadequate.
Words alone can never fully express the message we want to convey. Every message is encoded into words through our feelings, inferences, attitudes, and thoughts. The words themselves only communicate a part of the intended message. The remainder is communicated subconsciously through body language.
Body language
A considerable percentage of our communication comes via our body language. Facial expressions, the eyes, tone of voice, and skin colour on the face and neck are some indications that reveal the unspoken message.
Assumptions kill relationships
The problem is that the listener makes assumptions based on these signs' interpreting what the speaker means based on what they hear, see and feel.
These assumptions often lead to misunderstanding and potential conflict, which is why Deep Listening is so complex.
Deep Listening
The magic of metaphors
People tell stories, right? And people use metaphors to help clarify what they are trying to say. For example, a mother describing her child at a new school. "He was like a fish out of water". But did you know metaphors we use are loaded with valuable information?
The magic of Language
The words you use also give the Deep Listener a tremendous amount of free information, which is like gold.
What is not spoken
By listening to both the metaphors and language used by the speaker, Deep Listeners can make an educated guess at what is left unsaid.
Then, using carefully crafted questions, the listener can check their assumption with the speaker bringing the unspoken message into their conscious awareness, enabling them to make a rational choice
Benefits of Deep Listening
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