Are Your Relationships Important to You?

Mindfulness is about staying in the present. Not thinking about the past, not thinking about the future.

Mindfulness is about listening deeply.

Listening resides at the core of every relationship.

Trust is another critical element of relationships and trust is established by small moments that demonstrate that you care about, that you notice them, that they matter to you.

Unfortunately listening isn't taught in schools or universities. I asked one University professor if they taught listening at the uni. His response was simple. "We assume that by the time they get to University they know how to listen."

Listening - the priceless gift

If you want to give a priceless gift to another person take the time to listen deeply to them.

The Mindful Communication Course contains advanced level listening skills that go way beyond Active Listening.

Basic Active Listening skills are included but when you have learned the additional skills of Mindful Listening you will never be able to listen the same again.

Listening determines the quality of all your relationships including your immediate family, friends, and work colleagues.

Effective communication has three essential ingredients, Acquiring Knowledge, Acceptance, and Application.

Acquiring knowledge 

You don't know what you don't know.

When someone is talking to you  do you think about you're going to say next?

If you do, and most people do, are you really listening?

The power of our brain is a huge block to listening.


OK, now you know what happens are you prepared to replace a poor listening habit with a new and better one? 

Learn how to reduce conflict with these listening skills that help prevent unnecessary misunderstandings, arguments and conflict.


When you learn and apply these advanced tools you will rapidly build rapport, deepen relationships and trust.

You will become an above average communicator and enjoy healthy rewarding and meaningful relationships at home and work.

about Alan Cox

Life experience plus research

I left school and went to the university of life in the a cut-throat environment of the film and television industry.

I learned fast from first-hand experience. 

For years I worked on thousands of TV commercials, TV documentaries and corporate videos discovering how convert and successfully communicate the message minus the jargon.

 1994 American Psychotherapist John Savage taught me about Deep Structure Listening and the incredible power  of the subconscious mind.

I learned how our unconscious emotional state controls how we react and behave.

I learned how to listen between the lines and how to ask the right question to deepen the conversation.

To share this knowledge and experience gained over a lifetime I created the Mindful Communication Online eLearning Course.

The course starts with understanding how interpersonal communication works, why it goes wrong and how to fix it when it does break down. 

Do your relationships give your life meaning?

Relationships are where we are accepted for who we are.

In my opinion a basic human need is for relationships that give us security, intimacy, and belonging.

The skills in this module show you how to reduce conflict by gaining more clarity in your interpersonal communication, how you can listen beyond the obvious to others and yourself that result in greater self-awareness and confidence building rich lasting meaningful relationships.


Check what our clients say about us

In just 5 minutes I discovered what went wrong with my marriage...

When Alan showed me the Pinch Crunch model that explains how to maintain a healthy lasting relationship I understood what went wrong between my ex husband and myself.

If I had known this back then, things might have been different. 

As for the future I am confident that my next relationship will be stronger because of this knowledge.  Now I want the skills so I don't make the same mistakes again.


Lorraine Garvie

ceo district32

Great tips for businesses!

For business, the information in the 'Departure Lounge' videos is invaluable.

Imagine being able to 'hear' and 'see' the signs that your most indispensable employee is thinking of resigning or your best customer is about to take their business elsewhere is invaluable.

Dean Keating

Director district32

As a Mum and business owner I love the way Alan describes concepts that can be quite complex and involved in a way that is practical and easy to understand.

He cuts through the jargon making it easy to apply the skills in everyday life.

The Mindful Communication course has changed the way I listen.

Tracey Regan

Director lemon tree book co

As a psychologist I try to remove technical terms and jargon from my writing but it's hard. Alan has captured complex concepts transforming information into easy to understand everyday language.

I have never heard communication described so simply. Bye the way, some of the information Alan provides was new to me.

Sue Keating


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