Brainy Gecko – Active Listening on Steroids

"When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know.

But if you listen, you may learn something new." The Dalai Lama

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The Art of Transformative Communication

 is Active Listening on steroids,

bringing joy and happiness to your relationships

I think everyone wants to live a joyful, productive and fulfilled life...

But, the quality of your life depends on

The quality of your relationships, 

and the quality of your relationships

depend on your ability to communicate effectively.

Next time someone tells you a story see what happens inside your mind. 

Did a story with a similar theme pop into your mind?

This story gives you an opportunity. Do you want to tell your story?

When you're in a group stay quiet and have a listen to what happens.

Someone else will tell a story with a similar theme to the one in your mind.

Notice how the story in your mind makes you feel. 

ad stories trigger feelings of sadness

Sad stories trigger feelings of sadness

Happy stories trigger happy feelings

Bad stories evoke bad emotions 

The Amygdala

The amygdala is your brains emotional control centre and it's fast.

When someone tells you a story your brain goes into action and before you know it a similar story from your past has popped into your mind.

And so does the emotion that went with it. Sadness, frustration or joy.

That emotion comes from the amygdala, your reptilian brain or as we prefer to say your gecko brain.

The amygdala thinks in images and attaches an emotion to that image. 

You see a snake and you are jumping over it even before your rational mind has registered the danger.

Which brings us to the next point.

Humans NOT Consumers

The problem for communication is the amazing speed of the human brain.

If you want to get a person's  attention you must stimulate their subconscious brain. Their Gecko.

If you fail to do that their brain goes into neutral and you have to work very hard to recapture their attention.

To get their unconscious mind to take notice you have to evoke an emotional response.

In business, even when you are face to face with the decision maker you need to engage their unconscious brain.

If 95% of our decisions are made by the unconscious brain wouldn't it be good practice to target the unconscious?

But how do you do that?

Are you 'really listening?

Think about it. What happens when you are talking with another person?

Are you really listening or just waiting for your turn to speak? 

Have you ever wander off and thought about other things even when someone is still speaking to you?

And When someone has said something you strongly disagree with have you been aware of your feelings?

Is it possible that you reacted not to what the person said but your feelings at the time?

And what about your children? Do you know that their stories tell you a lot about what is happening for them in their world?

We show you how! Click here and and get more information.

Do you believe that effective listening plays a major role in your relationships?

Would you like to take your listening skills to the next level? 

Do you feel that there is too much conflict in your life?

Would you like to handle conflict more effectively?

How do you respond when you are criticised?

Are your expectations in alignment with your employer or partner?

Do you want to make a difference in your world?

If you believe that meaningful communication and relationships

are at the heart of your happiness, then click here.

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Why the name Brainy Gecko?

If you retrain your 'Gecko' you will make better decisions and develop Long-lasting, healthy, productive relationships

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"When You Talk, You Are Only Repeating What You Already Know.

But If You Listen, You May Learn Something New." The Dalai Lama