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Are Your Relationships Important to You?

Mindfulness is about staying in the present. Not thinking about the past, not thinking about the future.

Mindfulness is about being present.

But how do you do that?


Learn how to stay in the present when talking with another person.

Stay in the present. I know you're busy but really, if you invest just 5 minutes a day in the Comfort of your home or office you can transform your life with  Mindful Communication.

Effective listening skills (i.e. staying present in a conversation) determines the quality of your relationships with family, friends, and work colleagues and ultimately, your happiness.

Effective listening has three essential ingredients, awareness, accountability and action.


Ever noticed that you often find yourself thinking about what you're going to say even before the other person has stopped talking?

We show you why this is and how to fix it!


Relationships often end in divorce when they don't need to.

We demonstrate you how to reduce conflict and unnecessary relationship breakdown.


Yes, relationships are hard work.

The power of our brain makes listening difficult.

We explain what happens and why open communication is so hard. 

about Alan Cox

Life experience plus research

I left school and went to the university of life. I learned fast and from first-hand experience. The film and television industry is a cut-throat environment.

Working on thousands of TV commercials, TV documentaries and corporate videos I know what works. Now I wanted to know why it worked.

In 1994 I learned Deep Structure Listening from an American Psychotherapist.

I learned about the incredible power of the unconscious mind. I learned how our unconscious emotional state controls how we react and behave.

I learned how to listen between the lines.

I learned how to ask the right question at the right time.

To share this knowledge and experience I created the Mindful Communication Online eLearning Course Mindful Communication is available on Tony Robbins Mastermind.

Do your relationships give your life meaning?

Relationships are where we are accepted for who we are.

In my opinion a basic human need is for relationships that give us security, intimacy, and belonging.

The skills in this module show you how to reduce conflict by gaining more clarity in your interpersonal communication, how you can listen beyond the obvious to others and yourself that result in greater self-awareness and confidence building rich lasting meaningful relationships.


Check what our clients say about us

In just 5 minutes I discovered what went wrong with my marriage...

When Alan showed me the Pinch Crunch model that explains how to maintain a healthy lasting relationship I understood what went wrong between my ex husband and myself.

If I had known this back then, things might have been different. 

As for the future I am confident that my next relationship will be stronger because of this knowledge.  Now I want the skills so I don't make the same mistakes again.


Lorraine Garvie

ceo district32

Great tips for businesses!

For business, the information in the 'Departure Lounge' videos is invaluable.

Imagine being able to 'hear' and 'see' the signs that your most indispensable employee is thinking of resigning or your best customer is about to take their business elsewhere is invaluable.

Dean Keating

Director district32

As a Mum and business owner I love the way Alan describes concepts that can be quite complex and involved in a way that is practical and easy to understand.

He cuts through the jargon making it easy to apply the skills in everyday life.

The Mindful Communication course has changed the way I listen.

Tracey Regan

Director lemon tree book co

As a psychologist I try to remove technical terms and jargon from my writing but it's hard. Alan has captured complex concepts transforming information into easy to understand everyday language.

I have never heard communication described so simply. Bye the way, some of the information Alan provides was new to me.

Sue Keating


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