Caregivers - The Silent Victims!
To Be Valued is a Basic Human Need.
Stroke and catastrophic events cause sudden and unexpected disruption in a family's life and can cause all sorts of problems. People caring for dementia, alzheimers or others that are dependant on them also need emotional support.
The simple act of listening deeply to them demonstrates that they are valued.
"I just didn't care."
Larry, a stroke survivor said, "I just didn't care."
Could Larry have felt that he had nothing left to contribute?
Those who have survived a stroke often have a tremendous sense of loss of meaning and identity.
"I don't matter anymore."
Caregivers also suffer frustration, anger, and confusion. They can feel a loss of identity and, like caregiver Brenda, lose themselves in their role of full-time carers.
Brenda said, "I don't matter anymore."
That was 12 months ago.
Here they are 12 months later.
"If the caregiver is running on empty how can they support the survivor?"
Brenda and Larry have now joined the crusade to help other carers and survivors achieve renewed hope, meaning and purpose after the devastation of stroke or traumatic injury.
Deep Listening has enormous benefits for the carer.
- Deep listening enables you to reestablish an emotional connection with your partner
- Clarify what the survivor means, reducing misunderstandings and arguments
- Create a bond by identifying the how the survivor is feeling
- Take control of your automatic reactions by expressing how you are feeling
- 'Hear' what is not being said
- Diffuse criticism and verbal abuse calmly and without judgement
- Set boundaries to protect yourself
- Increase self-awareness
- Regain your identity, a sense of who you are.
"I had to find a quiet spot where my husband couldn't hear me, and I would weep."
This lady's family and friends couldn't cope with the situation. She felt abandoned, left without much-needed emotional support.
We are changing that!
Sometimes we just need a listening ear, for someone to just listen and be there without offering advice or trying to fix or change anything. We just need to feel like we are being seen. We just need to feel we are being heard. We just need to feel there is time and space for us. ♡ Don't be afraid to ask for what you need. Therapy with Annie
By learning to listen deeply, carers can provide the emotional support that other carers need.
Carers need someone to 'Listen to them'. They do not need solutions or pity. They just want to be valued.
Learn to give your family, survivor and other carers the invaluable gift of Deep listening.