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At this point you may be asking, “What is an enriched and joyful life?”
For me living joyfully is having meaning and purpose by having deep relationships. It is helping others to gain greater self-awareness so that that can enjoying happy, productive and enduring relationships.
A person living an enriched life is a person happy in their own skin. They know who they are and live content and confident.
For me that is what living an enriched joyful life is all about. Quality relationships and a high level of self-awareness.
What would your enriched life be like?
The Pathway To An Enriched Life
1. What happens in your mind when is talking to you?
Ever reacted to a conversation and wished later that you had responded differently? We start by giving you the knowledge to understand your reactions by exploring what happens in the brain as we communicate with another human being. Then we show you a model that helps you build happy, productive enduring relationships.
2. How to live an enriched life:
A basic human need is for relationships that give us security, intimacy, and belonging. Relationships where we are accepted for who we are. The skills in this module show you how to reduce conflict by gaining more clarity in your interpersonal communication, how you can listen beyond the obvious to others and yourself that result in greater self-awareness and confidence building rich lasting meaningful relationships.
3. Put your new skills into practice.
When you enrol in the course you can choose to join out private Facebook Group where you meet other participants to experience and practice your new skills helping you to reach the unconscious competence stage of learning putting them to use helping others to help themselves.
Meaningful relationships are a basic human need. Without love and belonging many humans can live a lonely life.
Meaningful relationships are at the heart of living an enriched life...
...Mindful Listening is at the heart of healthy relationships.
Mindful Listening builds deep meaningful relationships
When you take this course you will...
- Gain confidence
- Build enduring rich relationships
- Increase your level of self-awareness
- Clarify expectations
- Reduce Conflict
- Improve productivity
- Understand opposing points of view
- Identify your automatic responses
- Gather more valuable information
Step 1: The problem isn't that we don't want to listen, we just don't know how. Even though listening is the most used skill we have, it is the least taught.
Before we can improve our listening skills we need to know why most people don't listen effectively. And that's what we explore in the 1st module.
When I first learned about this information I was amazed.
Step 2. Now that we have learned the basics of listening, this module starts with basic skills such as Paraphrase, Curiosity Questions, Perception Check, and Behaviour Description.
We then move onto some advanced skills including; Metaphor Magic, Polarity Listening, and Belief Systems Revealed.
Before I took the course I was told that I would never be the same. They were right. This information and the skills I learned have changed my life.
I wonder why Listening Skills aren't taught in schools.
Now you know what happens and have the tools to listen mindfully you need to embed the information and the skills into your long-term memory.
We do this by providing you with access to a private group where you connect with fellow participants so you can experience and practice your skills.
It was only by experiencing and practicing the skills with other participants on the course that I learned that I was able to 'Listen' and really make a difference helping other people live an enriched life.
Step 1 - Diagnose the Problem
What Stops Us From Listening Effectively?
Why Conflict Occurs
Can the awesome power of your brain be responsible for poor listening?
Become More Confident
Become more confident and establish positive lasting relationships.
The Communication Gap
Why we experience so many misunderstandings.
Fix a relationship in 5 minutes. Learn how you how to maintain relationships.
Step 2 - The Solution
How to Listen Mindfully
14 Skills that help you Listen Effectively?
How to Reduce conflict
Misunderstandings are at the core of most conflict. We show you how to get clarity and reduce conflict.
Help the person help themselves. That is the power of this skill. You open the door for them to find their own solutions.
We show you how to fix a relationship in 5 minutes. With a few newly learned skills you can maintain long-term relationships.
Listen for What Isn't said out loud
What people don't talk about is as important as what they do. Learn how to listen for what is left out.
Plus more skills including...
- Discovering hidden beliefs
- Hearing what isn't said
- Dealing with criticism
- The Linguist Bridge
- Dealing with Emotions
- Responding to criticism
We all need to feel valued and that we belong.
When you listen mindfully to another person you demonstrate to them
that they are valued and respected.
Learn how to live an enriched life full of deep, meaningful and enduring relationships and make Your World A Happier Place - One Conversation at a Time.
What our customers are saying:
In just 5 minutes I discovered what went wrong with my marriage...
When Alan showed me the Pinch Crunch model that explains how to maintain a healthy lasting relationship I understood what went wrong between my ex husband and myself.
If I had known this back then, things might have been different.
As for the future I am confident that my next relationship will be stronger because of this knowledge.
Lorraine Garvie // CEO District32
"I didn't feel that I was good enough...
As a single Mum I needed someone to talk to, someone to really listen to me.
Alan gave me the insights for me to recognise some deep seated beliefs that, as an adult, were no longer valid. Being able to talk it through and not be judged was so refreshing and helpful.
I now have more clarity and understanding, not just listening to others, but listening to myself. I even feel that I can help others to communicate better.
One thing I know for sure, when my next relationship arrives, I will have the tools to give it the best shot at lasting a lifetime.
Tracey Regan // Director Lemon Tree Book Co
The Secret To Living An Enriched Life
How many times have you told someone about a problem you have and they leap in immediately with a solution. It is frustrating because all you wanted to do is talk it through. You weren't looking for a solution but you got one anyway.
The goal of this course is to give you the skills to listen deeply. It is NOT your job to FIX the other person. Your job is to listen between the lines, without judgement and feedback to the person what they reveal to you.
Your task is to bring the insight they give you to help them bring it into their conscious awareness. Then can then resolve the issues themselves. What they choose to do with it is their responsibility - not yours.
You set them free and empower them with the ability to deal with their own issues. "If you give a man a fish you feed him for a day. If you teach a man to fish you feed him for a lifetime."
Our goal is to empower you and for you to empower others.
Alan Cox // Coach
Alan has worked in the communication industry all his working life.
In the late 90s Alan attended a Listening Skills 5 day workshop in Deep Structure Listening. The following year he was trained and authorised to facilitate the course by the author of the course John Savage,.
Since then he has led the course numerous times and listened to people from all walks of life.
Using his extensive experience in crafting videos that deliver the message he has combined his knowledge of video production and Deep Structure Listening creating this online Mindful Communication Course which includes Mindful Listening.
He met his wife Mary when they were 16 and they are still living happy together. They have been blessed with 3 wonderful children and 10 awesome grandchildren.
One thing we absolutely guarantee:
When you finish this course you will know that you're making a choice.
To listen or not to listen!
Great tips for businesses!
For business, the information in the 'Departure Lounge' videos is invaluable.
Imagine being able to 'hear' when your most indispensable employee is thinking of resigning or your best customer is about to take their business elsewhere.
Dean keating // Director District32
As a psychologist I try to remove technical terms and jargon from my writing but it's hard. Alan has captured complex concepts transforming information into easy to understand everyday language.
I have never heard communication described so simply. Bye the way, some of the information Alan provides was new to me.
Susann Keating // Clinical Psychologist
Our simple 3 step video eCourse helps to enrich lives through relationships.
If you believe that you can't improve your listening skills then this course is not for you.
However, if you want to enrich your life through your relationships then click the button below and enroll now.
Why wait? Sign up today.
Enrich Your Life and Your relationships.
Your 3 step pathway to Living an Enrich life through your relationships
Our guarantee: When you finish the course you will alway have the power of choice. To lIsten or not to Listen!
Frequently Asked Questions
What inspired you to create Brainy Gecko and this course?
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Most of us want our lives to have purpose and meaning. Many years ago, I was given the gift of Deep Structure Listening by American psychotherapist John Savage.
John’s course changed my life allowing me to find my meaning and purpose.
I began facilitating the course myself, seeing first hand the positive changes this information and the listening skills he taught me can make in a person’s life.
My purpose is clear. I am going to share the gift I was given with as many people as possible and I can’t think of a better way to do that than creating an online course?
What initially attracted you to mindful communication and self help in general?
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Being a member of a team that created thousands of television commercials, over 40 TV documentaries and hundreds of corporate videos, I have always been fascinated with how humans communicate.
I knew what worked, but I didn’t know why it worked and I wanted to find out and so my journey, and research began.
John’s course confirmed that a lot of what I was doing instinctively was right and now I knew how to apply that knowledge intentionally.
From then on I immersed myself into learning as much as could, so I could share it with others.
What was the biggest challenge you faced while creating the course and how did you overcome it?
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When I first started, I initially thought that creating the content would be a challenge, but it has been a part of my everyday life for so many years, that once I started, the words flowed and I had the passion to keep going.
At the moment there is about 145 minutes of video but don’t panic, most of them are around 5 minutes long.
What was difficult was putting aside my ‘day job’ to spend the time it needed to complete the modules. It took a leap of confidence to stop my income producing activity and focus on creating the course.
What would you say to someone thinking of trying the course?
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If you’re prepared to make a commitment to yourself to reflect deeply on the information and skills presented in the course, then I expect that you will enjoy the same life changing experience that I have.
To truly engage can be challenging and takes a lot of self-reflection. If you don’t want to do that, to learn about yourself, then this course isn’t for you.
Most of us want to help others. However, if you are going to help others you understand yourself first. And the reason for this becomes apparent in the skills Story Listening and Life Commandment Listening.
How has the process of learning about mindful communication & creating the course changed you?
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The changes for me have been profound.
The ability to help others gives me a tremendous sense of satisfaction.
The feeling I have when I see the expression on a person’s face when they have realised what their subconscious mind is communicating to them is priceless.
And when I see the moment when a person understands that they are valued and they are worthy, a wonderful feeling of warmth flows right through me. The joy I feel is hard to put into words.
To help someone understand why their marriage is failing, or did fail, is rewarding too because it means they can see the changes that can be made to improve their relationship, should they want too.
They are no longer a puppet being pulled by strings from their past.
A lot of the time I see relief and joy but there are times when pain is present I still experience a feeling of satisfaction.
Even if a person has uncovered and is experiencing some emotional pain, I still feel good because now they have discovered what has been troubling them and reason for it.
Now that is present in the conscious mind they can choose what to do about it if anything.
Always, the choice is theirs. What I have done is to help them understand the message from their subconscious. Now they have been empowered to make a choice, a decision.
Sometime that knowledge alone is enough and sometimes they need to seek professional help.
What they do from there is their responsibility.
What was the most surprising thing you learned about yourself when you first started researching about mindful communication?
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It wasn’t so much a surprise as a shock.
20 years ago, I was invited to attend a 5-day intensive training course teaching Deep Structure Listening.
2 hours into the course I was surprised at what I was learning. 4 hours in I was amazed. By the end of day one I was shocked. By the end of day five I was hooked.
I couldn’t believe how badly I had overestimated my ability to listen. If I were asked to grade my listening skills before the course, it would certainly have been above average. Around 6 or 7 out of 10. After the first day I realised that it would have been closer to 3 at best.
Another major insight shocked me. I couldn’t believe just how many of my behaviours, responses and reactions were automatic. It was like my unconscious brain was pulling the strings and I was the puppet.
My past experiences were controlling my present behaviour.
I made a commitment to myself to understand and even break the strings that tied me to the past beliefs that were no longer relevant for me as an adult.
As I learned where these unhelpful auto responses came from and learned how to reduce their impact on my behaviour, I understood that I did have the power of choice. It was empowering because I now could exercise more control over my actions.
I had been given the power of choice.
The result? Fewer misunderstandings and deeper more meaningful relationships with family, friends, work colleagues, and even strangers.
The gift I received from John Savage was freedom and a more meaningful life filled with purpose.
Another benefit of increased self-awareness was confidence, and a sense of self-worth, as well as the courage to step out of my comfort zone and do new things like create this online course.
I was given a gift and I am thrilled to be sharing that gift with as many people as possible.
How long are the videos?
To make the learning effective the average length of videos is about 5 minutes. For example, the Departure Lounge lecture consists of 5 videos. Each video deals with one aspect of the topic because one topic per video makes it easy to watch and understand.
Perhaps the longest video is the Pinch Crunch Model and that is only 11 minutes.
At times there will be special presentations from psychologists, coaches, relevant TED Talks and interview with authors that bring the latest research to the public.
Does this course give in-depth information and skills?
Yes. This course goes into substantial depth. For example, we don't just tell you about automatic hidden responses to certain situations, we show you how to identify them. If they are still valid keep them. if not, we show you how to ditch them.
How long before I can use the skills you teach?
Immediately. When you have listened to the videos you can apply the skills straight away.
Will this course work for me?
Yes. If you care about your family, friends, employees and work colleagues then you will be amazed at how this course will change your life.
However, if you think you're the perfect listener or you simply don't care about other people or think that relationships don't matter in business then no this course is definitely not for you.
The information and skills in this course enriched my life in so many ways and, if want to make a difference in your world then this course is for you.
Is this course taken from Google searches?
No. Obviously we use the Internet to stay up to date with current research but the primary information and skills taught, have been developed by psychologists. We provide a list of papers, books and articles for you should you want to dig deeper. In fact I encourage you to do this.
How long do we have access to the course?
You will have lifetime access to the course.
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