Deep Listening: The Secret to Building Enduring Relationships

We get comfortable and complacent

When things are going well and you fall into a comfortable routine and repetitive patterns develop. As a result, we take our partner for granted in many small ways, and because your partner feels that the incident or slight is so minor they ignore it.

It takes two people to build a Pattern but only one to break it

Because of the comfortable routine patterns are broken. Because your partner has stayed silent, the minor incidents are repeated causing your partner to become increasingly uncomfortable. 

As the 'not important enough' incidents keep happening annoyances build, frustration becomes anger and resentment sets in until a crack appears in the relationship.

There are times when silence is not golden

This distance continues to grow and what used to be minor annoyances have now become serious. The events continue to grow until they cause a blow up. This is commonly called the straw that broke the camel's back.

Far from being golden, in this case silence can be destructive.

Break the Destructive silence

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Overview of Communication

Managing Change

The Departure Lounge

Deep Listening

The Art of Deep Listening is

Critical for Enriched Relationships

Talking and honesty are the most influential part of a relationship.
Communication influences the satisfaction and happiness within a relationship.

This website has one goal.

To assist you to be fully alive and engaged

within your relationships and life.

Who benefits from the course:

  1. Caregivers and TBI Survivors - (Carers need a carer)
  2. Couples and families - (Many divorces do not need to happen)
  3. Business - (Being a good listener is absolutely critical to being a good leader... R Branson)

Caregivers need emotional support

Caregivers often become the silent victims needing emotional support. Accidents, cowardly one punch victims and traumatic brain injury survivors such as stroke change lives in a split second. Family and friends can scatter when a carer needs them the most.

Couples and families

Statistics demonstrate that many marriages and primary relationships fail because of poor interpersonal communication. The emotional and financial pain of separation and divorce is often avoidable.

Learning how to communicate, how to listen deeply is a key factor. Yet listening is not part of the school curriculum.

Business - Relationships are the key to productivity

Richard Branson has the right idea, Look after your staff and they look after your customers. Productivity is directly influenced by the degree of connection between team members, managers and employee. And connection between your staff depends on The Art of Listening.

The Solution? The Art of Deep Listening

Caregivers and survivors, couples, and businesses all rely on effective communication to recover, grow and flourish.

The Mindful Communication course available from this website shows you how to build healthy productive and meaningful relationships starting with Deep Listening.

The bottom line?

Better understanding of how humans communicate enrich relationships making room for growth and meaning. Check out how you can enrich your relationships.

Mindful Communication Courses

How to Manage Change

We grow, we mature we change. We all go through predictable times of change.

When we don't understand the process of change stress increases.

Understand what is happening, manage the change and make better decisions.

Business & Personal

The Departure lounge demonstrates how we why communicate when we are disconnecting from a relationship. 

Act early and keep your valued personal and business relationships.

Carer's Need a Carer

Any injury that leaves a person fully dependant on their spouse or other family member is devastating.

Unfortunately the primary carer, most often the spouse often becomes the silent victim.

Cares need a carer!

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Divorce may not be necessary

Poor communication is one of the main reasons given for divorce. Most people understand that good communication is vital to any healthy relationship.

But when communication breaks down, it creates misunderstandings, mistrust, anger, and, ultimately, broken relationships.

Talking and honesty

Talking and honesty are the most influential part of a relationship.

Communication influences the satisfaction, meaning, and happiness within a relationship.

Does keeping the peace work?
"It will blow over." "I don't want to argue with her." "It isn't worth the hassle and the silence for the next 2 weeks." "He will get mad if I talk about how I feel."  "It isn't worth fighting about." 

Silence = nothing will change

Staying silent means the behaviour will be repeated because the person does not realise that you are upset. How can they know if you don't tell them?

The straw that broke the camel's back
Because the offending behaviour continues, frustration and anxiety builds until it becomes too much. Eventually, the emotional dam breaks open and rational thinking is drowned in anger. This is know as, 'the straw that broke the camel's back.'

What happens if you stay silent?
In the long run, staying silent is a makes the situation worse. It is a strategy that will eventually destroy the relationship.
Staying silent delays the inevitable. Frustration grows and festers, increasing the tension until resentment and anger destroys the marriage. Staying silent merely delays the inevitable. 

But there is a better way. Mindful Communication and Deep Listening show you why communication fails and what you can do about it. We also give you a way to speak about your feelings constructively.

Is there a better way?
Yes. Mindful Communication and Deep Listening shows you what happens in your brain that causes meaningful communication to fail and what you can do about it. We also give you a way to speak about your feelings in a constructive way, a way that leads to open constructive conversation.

Overview of Communication

The Art of Deep Listening